While the last thing couples want to think about is breaking up, the sad reality is that it happens a lot.
Once the honeymoon stage is over, reality starts to kick in, It takes a lot of work to make a relationship succeed. Your bedroom habits, the way you argue, how often you communicate and even the way you carry your day to day conversations, determines your relationship longevity. To avoid a failed relationship, it is essential to spot the relationship killers ahead of time. Create relationships that thrive by recognizing these love squishing blunders.
5 Biggest Relationship Mistakes
1. Needing To Be Right.
The need to be right in an argument, is an illusion that comes from our ego, this ego cares only about itself. Needing to be right can become toxic for two people in a relationship. Always having to be right is damaging to our love lives, because it interferes with healthy communication, shared decision making and trust. You have to realize that you do not have all the right answers to everything, It is arrogant for an individual to think that his or her opinions are always the right ones and there is no value in listening to others and opening up to new viewpoints and approaches. Don’t put others down because they differ in how they think.
Avoid being right always, what matters is, why the other person is upset and finding a way to address it. leave your ego at the door when it comes to your relationships. Trust and intimacy cannot develop when you are focused on winning each argument and proving the other person wrong. The most lovable quality any human being can possess is tolerance. It is the vision that enables one to see things from others viewpoint.
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2. Not knowing your partners needs.
Everyone has a unique way that makes them feel loved. It could be through having a quality time, physical touch, buying gifts and many more. This are all love languages and you should be able to know the love language your partner crave for and attend to them accordingly.
The knowledge you know about your partner, distinguishes this relationship from all other relationships. No one should know you more than your partner. If they do, it is a problem; it means you and your partner lack intimacy. And for some couples, this could be a warning sign of serious relationship trouble.
A passionate marriage or committed relationship is one in which you and your partner have intimate knowledge about each other and your needs.
3. Being Jealous.
When insecurity in our relationships run rampant, jealousy can rapidly grow into obsession and threaten to destroy the very relationship that took us long to build.
When you make room for jealousy in your relationship, it leaves you frustrated and ruins your peace of mind. It also makes you feel insecure. Soon, Your insecurities and obsession starts draining you and giving you constant fears. When you are jealous, you start feeling like you own your partner. Nobody owns anyone and possessiveness is a sure way to kill a relationship.
Possessiveness gives birth to the need to control your partner. Besides wanting to own them and every details about their daily activities, a need for controlling them comes next. Controlling can severely hurt and damage feelings of the person being controlled. One of the biggest factors in failing relationships is jealousy. For Example, you feel offended or jealous when your partner talks or receive text messages from the opposite sex. This is a very big relationship killer.
The more jealous you become, the more you will try to control your partner. If you start feeling possessive over your partner, or your partner starts feeling possessive over you, address the issue, before it becomes too late. Jealousy that is out of control turns relationships into toxic ones.
4. Lack of Communication.
Every relationship has communication challenges every once in a while, some people aren’t good at talking about their feelings. They have a hard time with confrontation and this can lead to problems in their relationships. Lack of communication can quickly cause misunderstandings, resentments and feelings that you are emotionally far away or distant from each other.
When you withhold your needs or desires from your partner, you are abandoning yourself. If you want to be in a healthy relationship, learn to communicate your personal desires. Communication is the string that holds a relationship together. The biggest mistake that couples make is avoidance. We feel something, but say nothing, at least until we can’t stand it anymore.
In order to fix lack of communication in any relationship, both partners need to see it as a problem and want to do something about changing it. You need to talk about your feelings, be open and honest with each other. when you cannot talk about your problems, you cannot fix them. Are you unsatisfied with your sex life?. You can fix that by communicating. Are you unhappy with something your partner keeps doing?. You can also fix that by communicating. Almost every issue you have can be discussed and talked through. Don’t just assume that your partner knows what you need, that’s not how it works. They are not mind readers.
Tell your partner exactly what you need or how you feel so they can become aware and adjust their behavior to suit yours. Effective communication creates room for a healthy relationship. When you communicate, make sure your partner understands you. It’s easy to sit and talk about something, but your partner might not always understand where you are coming from.
5. Not doing New Things Together.
No matter how much you love your partner or value your relationship, it is not uncommon to feel a little bored in your relationship from time to time. Couples who tried new things together, were found to be most satisfied in their relationships. There are tons of things you can do to bring the spark back into your love life. Plan new adventures and activities to do together, because that is a very great way to bond. Visit beautiful places, whether it is local or out of town, Have a date night planned, plan trips or vacation, picnics or even a night drive, Shake things up a bit and do something more wild, kinky, or sensual in bed. This is a great way to add some spice and fun to your relationship and learn new things together.
6. High Expectations.
Every person comes into relationships with some sort of expectations, expectations around how they want to be loved. High relationship expectations are fantasies and false hopes, that ruin your idea of your partner. Some people never realize the unwarranted damage they cause, because of these unhealthy ideas. High Expectations drown relationships, it increases the chances your partner will fail to meet them. By consciously or unconsciously writing up a laundry list of what your partner should be and how they should behave in order to make you happy, you set the relationship up to fail. William Shakespeare once said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”
We are engrossed to the imagination of a perfect partner and we bring that to our relationships without knowing. Sometimes, you picture your partners as flawless, which is in contrast to how you see them, weeks or months after entering the relationship with them. Before you say yes to a partner, there is this overly high expectations of them and what they would do when they eventually come into your life. If you aren’t careful, high expectations can kill your relationship. Being in a relationship is not so easy, but little things can significantly improve it. It only takes patience, little time, efforts, hardwork, discipline and commitment and everything will fall in place for good.